If there is one thing I can learn every day, several times a day, it is perspective. Regardless of what it pertains to or what is relative, perspectives can change and therefore, our thinking can change. Sometimes, it is difficult, if not impossible, for others to see your perspective. Someone that I was friends with once told me when I was “venting to her” about something that upset me, “How does this affect me?” She was unwilling to even hear what I was saying and feeling…all she cared about was why she needed to hear this and how it just seemed to be a waste of her time. Hence, we are no longer friends, but are remain friendly with each other when our paths cross. When people have shared with me about things that are troubling to them, I look at those situations from their point of view and try to help and understand. I listen. I may not be able to do anything to change that situation, but I can be supportive of my friend and listen. Maybe I don’t see it exactly as you do because I don’t live it and you don’t live it when it is me, but we can still be there for each other and look at things from outside our normal view. One of the things that can be said to me when I don’t see what I should is, “Would you do it for me?” Usually, that gets me to allow others to be there for me when I need it. So when you think you have all the answers and it is all figured out, know that something can always change and be different. You can always change your perspective.
Michelle Homme 2012 ©