Reminder of my old self

Tonight, I went to the grocery store to pick up a few things. I ran into an old friend that I probably had not seen in several years (maybe 3?) as she was looking for something in the organic aisle. I jokingly came up behind her and told her, “Don’t eat that stuff, it will kill you!” No, I was not serious, but thought it was funny. Anyway, I visit with E and catch up on our families. She notices that I have lost weight and asks me what I did…I tell her that story and how Rocky got me going. Then, I tell her that I am sorry. I am sorry that for years, I did not share with her and our other BUNKO friends who I really was and had walls up all the time. I was reserved but friendly just enough to everyone there. She commented on how I was negative and sad all the time when I came to BUNKO, even when I won most of the time. Seriously, they had to change the rules because I won so many times in one night. I felt uncomfortable that I was so different now and that I missed out on so much with those people that were friends. I pulled away from them when I looked around the room and wondered which one of the these people would I call if something horrible happened in my life. Which one of these ladies would stop what they are doing in their busy lives, and be there for me? Not that I would even call one, but if I ever got the courage to call one, even one, which one? I would not have called even one. And the truth is that if I had needed to make that call, someone would have come. I did not even share with these ladies when my birthday was and we played BUNKO for about 4 years. That is pretty closed up, living in the vault. So when I turned 40, these same ladies even gave me a surprise, impromptu birthday party because they happened to find out that morning. I did not like the attention and even threatened to leave when I got to T’s house. They didn’t deserve that and they just wanted to celebrate me and I reluctantly let them. I didn’t get it then. I feel like I need to apologize to them. So, BUNKO babes – you know who you are. I am sorry for not letting you in and prejudging you based on my past. A past that you had no idea existed in a place I never went. Until this year. That was not your fault. You always gave me 100% of you and I never returned the favor, afraid of something that I had envisioned would happen in my mind. I was held captive of the fear of not thinking I could have friends who cared about me and enjoyed being with me. You deserved better and I wish I could fix it. Maybe someday. I shared with E where I am now, and she told me that I looked so happy and I gave her a big hug then we went our separate ways. It was so great to see her and I sent her a text telling her so. I am putting myself out there – telling her exactly what I was feeling at the time I was feeling it. I vowed to do that a year ago. I am not sure what E was thinking after I walked away, but I sensed that she might need someone to be there for her. I hope that somehow, she gets the message that I am here if she needs me. I hope that she forgives me for treating her less than I should have. I had forgotten what the old me was like, but got a glimpse of her today as I shared with an old friend. I sit here, shaking my head, thinking how pitiful it must have been trying to sell something that I was that I didn’t even believe. You can’t sell what you don’t believe, regardless of what you want to sell. If someone asks you, “How are you?” too many times we offer up the minimum and try to sell it, but fail miserably at it. This ugly reminder of who I was disgusted me and I KNOW I am not going back to that old Michelle. She is gone forever. Who are you pretending to be? Finally, let you be you…it is too hard

Michelle Homme 2011 ©

trying to be anyone else.

 

2 Comments

  1. Erica

    Posted on April 7, 2011 at 4:56 pm

    Hey Michelle – I finally got on your blog – you definitely inspired me. I have ran several times since, but more importantly- you inspired me to realize "it starts today". Attitude is everything – isn't it! It was great to see you.

    E

  2. Michelle Homme Says :

    Posted on April 7, 2011 at 8:23 pm

    E –
    This is the real me. It is so easy, yet can be difficult for us to get there. But, we have to go there. Attitude dictates everything else. Always.

    M

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